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Consent, Desire, and the Quest to Be Better with Eric FitzMedrud, PhD, Author of The Better Man

Maggie Langrick Season 3 Episode 31

This episode is a JUICY one—and not just because we're talking about sex! If you want a deeper, more intimate connection with your partner, you should listen to it. If you've been concerned about the rise of anti-feminist spokesmen like Andrew Tate, you should listen to it. And if you want to write a non-fiction book that heals something in our culture—particularly if you're a therapist—you should DEFINITELY listen to it.

Dr. Eric Fitzmedrud is a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues, specifically in helping men improve their sex lives by learning to regulate their emotions, removing sexual entitlement, and honing their sexual consent and negotiation skills. Eric is a speaker, a trainer of other therapists, and a teacher of graduate courses in psychology. His book is The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex, a compassionate and practical approach to a topic that is courageous and challenging. In this episode, you'll learn:

  • Why consent isn’t just about fear and safety—about not making harmful mistakes with your partner. It's also the key to some of our greatest pleasures.
  • How the narrow confines of traditional masculinity are harming men and their relationships with others.
  • How patriarchy and capitalism contribute to a sense of entitlement in men—even those who identify as feminists.
  • How Eric overcame his fear of writing the book—how he navigated processing his own errors around consent to honor those he has hurt in the past, and the rigorous vetting process he used to make sure they were okay with their stories being included.
  • His take on book promotion and being a public figure—and how being on social media and doing podcast interviews has made him more confident in his message.

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